Today’s article is a bit different. It’s not exactly fitness or nutrition oriented, but more of a lifestyle topic. With the New Year right around the corner, I’ve been writing down tons of goals I want to accomplish in 2016.
While doing so, I’m carefully evaluating all of the moves I’ve made this year towards my goal – and in some cases, becoming further from certain goals. I start to wonder why and how I was able to achieve some goals, while falling short on others.
One thing that can help you achieve all kinds of different goals is a great support system, which I am blessed to have! I have an incredible family and lot of friends from all walks of life, each offering their own supportive role in my life and helping me become a better person.
Take a look at your friends – your crew, if you will. I’ve heard people say that you’re only as strong as your weakest link. You are the average of your 5 best friends. What does your current support system say about you as a person?
I got to thinking about the diversity among my friends and wanted to share the 5 types of friends that I think everyone should have in their network!
Success is never achieved alone. Everyone needs a mentor who has been there, done that. Surround yourself with people who are more successful than you. Find people who are smarter, stronger, more financially comfortable, less stressed etc. and learn from them. Then become a mentor for someone else and share your knowledge!
You need a ride-or-die, loyal best friend that’s going to be there through thick and thin with you. This person knows more about you than you know about yourself. You guys depend on each other in the most important situations and can always count on that person to support you to the best of their abilities. They aren’t a yes man who just constantly tells you that you’re the best thing since sliced bread, but more of a lifelong teammate always cheering you on.
The Devil’s Advocate
Who’s going to keep you in check when you get a little ahead of yourself? This type of friend doesn’t let your ego overpower your rational thought process. This is the person you go to when you need a reality check. You may think you have the next million dollar business plan, but you can count on this person to put things into a realistic perspective for you. They may be pessimistic at times, but it’s always for the best.
Whatever industry you’re in, you need to be friends with a specialist in that trade. This is more specific than a mentor because this person is in your field of work and at the top of their game. You want to be in their position one day, and you will. This type of friend is constantly learning and improving, which will rub off on you and pay dividends in your work life.
The Polar Opposite
Lastly, you need a friend who is the polar opposite of you. This person zigs when you zag. You may even butt heads fairly often, but I believe everyone needs to be exposed to confrontation every now and then. This person is a great friend, despite your differences, and will help you become a more well-rounded human. I believe our society is too scared to be uncomfortable. Find someone who you have nothing in common with and become their best friend. That speaks volumes about the type of person you are (same goes for them.) Expose yourself to more of the unknown.
So take another look at your crew. Hopefully nobody is dragging you down. Your support system of friends should help you make progress towards success and now you know some qualities to look for in those people.